Where Are You Going, Where Have You Been

The spectacular irony of Where Are You Going, Where Have You Been? conveys the impression of warning ab out(a) temptation. Connies federal ripenncy is that she does non feel apprehended at home and uses her looks and dressions to engage attention and appreciation from boys plane if it is short-term. She is self-conscious about her looks and is constantly worried about how other people savvy her. familiaritys fantasy is that Connie volition willingly go with him and be his chicaner (605) level off before he officially met her.The veryity of the situation is that she does not want to go with this antic man, but is existence laboured into it because of her fear, which get hold of forths her weak and submissive. Connie is fifteen years old and obviously self-conscious because of the love that she never receives at home. Her whole life revolves almost attention from boys since she does not feel loved at home. Her sister June appears to be the favorite in the family, a s she receives all of the positive attention. Connies mother doesnt speak beneficent to Connie or about Connie, and Connie doesnt think well of her mother either.Her father does some(prenominal) he can to please Connie but doesnt cypherk for a good father-daughter relationship. They never talk about what is happening in their lives and act as if they be only acquaintances. Connie wants to appear sure-enough(a) and wiser than she actually is and her train is al elbow rooms full of meaningless daydreams to help her cope. Her promiscuity leads to attraction from boys and older men where she becomes terrified and realizes that she is not as grown up as she thought.Connie comes face to face with the harshreality of being forced into adulthood at the age of fifteen because of the special attention of Arnold booster unit. 2 Arnold shoplifter is a until now-tempered talker and has a great influence on the actions of his victims. His word pickax appeals to teenagers as does his c lothing. He is a short and stocky guy who stuffs his boots to make him seem taller and wears a leather jacket to look teenaged and suitable to teenage girls. The fact that his feet do not touch the bottom of his boots alludes to the ogres hoofs, significant in that he resembles the d evilnesss efficiency to deceive. Dont hem in on me. Dont hog. Dont crush. Dont bird dog. Dont trail me (608) are slang that he rattles off because he momently forgets what sayings are popular so he reconciles by making them up on his own. He has a moment when he breaks down in front of Connie and starts to lose his cool, calm, and collected personality showing his panic in possibly not being able to get his way. This shows that he is minute and does not settle for anything that he does not approve of.His main concentrate on is on retrieving girls for rape and murder and always goes for the attention-seeking personalities to make it easier to reach this goal. Friend is living a fantasy, while Conni e asserts the reality of the situation. When these worlds mix, it is obvious that Connie does not remove control and Friend becomes dominant. Friends alternate world is make up of his desire to have dates and lovers (605) when in actuality, he forces women to show him partiality by kidnapping them, raping them, and then killing them.Friends forceful spoken language show how he is caught in this dream of what Connie is going to do with him and how utterly it will all work out in the end when in all actuality, Connie has no intention of willingly going with him. He endlessly harps on the fact that he is going to get his way because he insists that his dreams are true. E truly time he talks about his fantasy, Connie has a bold statement declaring that she is willing to fight against his dream and 3 bring it back down to a reality as she tries to reason with him. Friend has the gift of persuasion where his greatest tools for manipulation are his words.He promises (607) that he will not harm Connie as long as she does not adhere through with what he considers threatening. Connie separates her mind from her body because she suddenly loses control. She is used to being on top and empowered but Friend comes along and takes over. The dramatic irony, during the course of their conversation, implies that Connie was in control of the situation to begin with, but Friend managed to obtain ultimate control of the situation by having her succumb to his power. fresh grow promotes having fun and doing what feels good in the moment.Connie has poor communication with her family, shown by her rebellious behavior and lack of respect for her parents. She chooses to distance herself from her family which results in them not being there when she subscribes them the most. Parents are supposed to be protectors and leadership in their tykerens lives and when these key aspects are not present, a windowpane is opened for the victimization of younker. The consequences of such s ituations result in a plight like Connies and becomes an immense concern for the nitty-grittys that modern glossiness has on youth.Where Are You Going, Where Have You BeenWhere are you going, Where have you been The Medias effect on youth In this 1966 short story written by Joyce Carol Oates, fifteen-year-old Connie is a self-absorbed teenager who spends her time fantasizing about romanticism and searching for attention from men. enchantment out with a suitor, a strange man promises her, Im gonna get you, baby (2). Connie doesnt think much of the incident until ane day while alone at home the man comes to get her. The assailant, Arnold Friend, is kind at first then progressively becomes aggressive and knock-down-and-drag-out towards her.Though at first she enjoys Arnolds attention, once his demands become intimate and violent, her assurance diminishes. While Connie attempts to evade Arnolds commands, she becomes powerless against the man and eventually follows him to go for a ride (3). While Where are you going, Where have you been, appears to simply be a tragic story about the abduction and rape of a younker girl, it is more(prenominal) importantly a statement of the time on the over- informalization in the media.From the time period the story was written, the 1960s, we know that society as a whole was exploding with counter-culture and rebellion. In response to the Vietnam War, for the first time in history, harmony rapidly became highly influential and that of a sexual nature. This first moving ridge of over-sexualized media is what influenced Connie and millions of the time to exploit their sexuality. The youth of the time period are ordinarily thought of as being extremely responsive to the world around them.With euphony being more suggestive than in the past and young people being more expressive and experimental, Connie grew up in a drastically changing world complete with the need to be sexual and to really stand out in order to be notic ed. Media became more widespread and important in the 60s than it had ever been before. When the TV and radio werent focusing on the war efforts in Vietnam, they showed the youths protest, and push to Make Love, Not War an iconic evince that illustrates the push towards sexuality during that time.Connie, an adolescent of this explosive period, is a prime face of sexualization in the media having a detrimental effect on a person. It is her need to be desired that makes her appealing to Arnold Friend, and leads to her demise later in the story. practice of medicine is a major theme in the story Connie constantly listens to music and associates music with pleasure in multiple instances. At one point, she even says she listened to the music that made everything so good (2). Upon Arnolds arrival we see that he is listening to the same music as Connie, which serves as a way to connect them.Since music plays such a prevalent component in Connies life, we can conclude that music is the media that influences her to behave in a sexual manner. From the music that she listens to, Bobby King, we get the impression that she links her belief of romance (that derives from the music she listens to) to the confidence and maturity she pretends to have when it comes to boys. Music plays in every situation where she intends to be sexually desired while out with boys, out with her friend searching for attention, while laying out in her backyard, and even at the offset printing of her conversation with Arnold.Music and Connies sexuality are inextricable tied togetheronce Connie becomes frightened of Arnold and is no long-lived exploiting her sexuality, there is no further mention of music in the story. While it is understood that Arnold will most likely harm Connie, he as well is whisking her away (or saving her) from a morally loose societythat very same society that made her the over-sexualized girl we see in the beginning of the story.Everything about Connie indicates th at she has been socialized into how the media thinks a young girl should befrom her suggestive clothing to her desperate attempt to be sexually desirable to the staminate population. Despite what she leads on, Connie is actually sexually innocent. Her innocence is echoed by her child-like naivety of rise her front door to a complete stranger while alone, as well as the fear that consumes her while she could have been calling the law of nature to prevent her murder.Arnolds desire for the young Connie may be Oates way of portraying how perverse the medias ploy to sexualize Americas youth is as well. The Lolita Effect is even a relatively modern concept. A lolita is a young girl who is viewed in a sexual manner, while the lolita effect is not only the corruption of a child by an adult, but exploiting an adult by a child that has been corrupted by society. Connie exploits her sexuality so well in the beginning of the story. It is her sexualization at such a young age that causes Ar nold to find her attractive and is the real life tragedy that comes from the story.By the end of the story, as the title suggests, Connie undergoes a major change. She ties to be an adult, but when Arnold challenges her with sexual advances, we see the frightened child she is. Arnold is that an agent to portray the evils that exist in the media. He illuminates the fact that our cultures media gives young girls the unattainable idea that they must behave in a certain way in order to be attractive, and that a man finding them sexually attractive is of upmost importance even as a pre-teen.The sexualization of young girls causes adult men to be attracted to them, creating an even further over-sexualized society. A young girls sexuality is such a vital aspect of the maturation operation a process that is malfunctioning or happening far too soon because of the media. It is the evil in the media that causes Connie to fall victim to the medias harmful portrayal of femininity. Media teache s us that being a typical young woman in nowadayss society is contingent on the amount of sexuality her appearance exudes.Connie so perfectly replicates how young girls in America that are being over-sexualized through music or television without even being conscious of it. The tragic way that Connie is stripped of her childhood suggests that where you are going, is dependent on where you have been. In Where are you going, Where have you been? Oates does a terrific hypothesise of hyperbolizing the affects of the medias influence while pointing out the very unexaggerated truth that over-sexualization in the media is detrimental to all aspects of society.